You are a catyclysmic pulse of sensuous light that moves chemicals and particles accidently, divinely, into an unapologetic wonderful display of organic energy.
This creation that is you is from the wonderfully freely divine (meaning beyond world physics but including it) intelligence of Life make-up. A sexual and primal, primitive life intelligence bound and made you. Why then, do we still not afford this of ourselves? What have you done along the way to stop feeling the great wonder, delight and wild mystery that is essentially you? Why do you not tacidly feel your real life intelligence anymore.
It is not the sex act and how to do it or how to approach it that we need to address. We do not have to learn how to masturbate again, how to touch another, how to show our vaginas to others- how to look someone in the eye softly, we are all perfectly pleasurably capable of doing that naturally – No, it is the ugly self imposed feeling of guilt and shame that we place on ourselves because we have forgotten our natural; trading it for a set of rules and regulations we had to follow to belong, to not be punished. We can be the most gorgeous, the most sumptuous, the most erotic person in the world, but there is always a feeling of uncomfortableness, uneasiness, self consciousness. And therefore these are the feelings that stop us from doing what is naturally and easefully right for us to do.
So what do we learn if we come to a sexuality life teacher?
We do not go to learn anything!
We come to undo all the things that we thought we had to learn to be a responsible law abiding social culturally appropriate citizen. We give our attention to the teacher who has understood and lives this themselves, these are the credentials the teacher must have. We come to understand, in their company, what we are up to and have been up to, so we are able to be distracted from the false identity that we have created over time. We come into their company to feel the wonder again, to feel the freedom of not being judged, of no predjudice. We come into their company to see and feel their unproblematic disply of the inherent full and sexual self so that we can trust and feel our own again.
You cannot learn what is naturally of you.
You come to honour what the teacher lives, because you understand what you have lost in yourself and you wish to honour that again, to create a relationship based on that; full again, unjustifiable again, emotionally strong again.
You come to that teacher to remember who you are!