You Are Love First

You Are Love First

you-are-love-omYou are Love first – You are this great energetic force of Life – You are Life. You are therefore not a problem – we have created problems because we have forgotten what we are – we have forgotten not how to Love, but that we ARE Love. Breathe easy in yourself and know that ultimately all is well.

Breathe down your frontal line opening up your frontal area as you go feeling the genital area, not being ashamed of this, then back up the back and out your mouth.
This is the course of the natural life energy current that moves through the body.
Put five minutes aside a day to just feel that you are more than all the things and conditions that tell you that you are not.
Gaze easy and naturally at yourself and others and Remember this Unproblematic energy that you are.

Vitality and Joy are natural, they should never be something that you have to conjure up. What are you doing to yourself, what are you believing about yourself, that makes you think that you do not have these. Shame, guilt and fear are made up because we have created a problem – they are not natural feelings given from a natural way of being. Nothing you do is shameful. To be bright and intelligent is not an academic thing it is an open Hearted attitude that creates Divine Intelligence – the more you sit within your feeling of no problem – the more natural divine intelligence you will have- the body knows inherently what to do – it is always naturally striving for balance – it already knows it is love. Do not rely on anyone for Love – You are selling yourself out and you are insulting yourself. Empowered Woman are needed in this world – Natural energetically beautiful, empowered woman are what this world needs. You are a wonder.

The Conundrum of Sexual Freedom (Part 2)

The Conundrum of Sexual Freedom (Part 2)

Painter Arunas Zilys - Melody DreamingStress and sexual negativity brought on through imbalanced and abusive conditions on all energetic levels (mental, emotional, physical etc) leaves many people with psychological scars that we do not know how to deal with. We are ashamed, we feel unworthy and most of all we feel unloved, unaccepted. To take the road of No Problem is a radical and revolutionary step. We are all trying to fix the problems to heal ourselves. If you wish to stand up and claim what is inherent of you, your primal well being sexuality, a person can no longer blame anything external. You must take responsibility for all that is going on emotionally/sexually physically for you. That is the start of becoming sexually alive! That is the start of your real full sexual humanness.

Joy and Vital living are uncommon energies that are felt in humans as a constant and strong force. Yet, these are natural body energies that should be available to everyone 100 percent of the time.
We are not given a choice to live these if we are told from day one in all manner of ways, that we can’t claim these unless we feel loved, accepted, appreciated and fulfilled, always by something external or internal (good thoughts, affirmations etc). We were easily conned and had no choice but to intuit, absorb and listen to negativity in the form of “do this, this and this, or, behave like this, this and this” and then, you will be a good boy or girl.” Caregivers and teachers would not have called this negative, they felt they were making you into a good human being. But here I use negativity as a word that means going against the natural already perfect appreciation and acceptance of the human life you are…everything included, all feelings, thoughts and actions.

If we are going against what is natural and life given, we can only be trying to manipulate ourselves or others into becoming something that we are not. We have become (if we quiet ourselves) a consistent nagging bag of thoughts and feelings. Always trying to prove our worth to counteract feelings of no worth, and, the bugger of this is, there are only a limited number of ways we can prove this. Society, culture and religion only allow for so many types of behaviour patterns. Anything outside of this is sinful, weird, odd, eccentric, dirty or not to be taken seriously.
To make yourself right, there are parts of you that you have to make wrong. You have to leave out, not acknowledge and suppress the mischievous, naughty (by societies standards) and eccentric, the outspoken and the raw. In my opinion the very things and feelings that bring charisma, pleasure, joy, humour and wonder.  Most of us have to fake the mundane and acceptable to be considered sane and suppress the mischievous joy because apparently we will become insane. But insane because we had normalized mundane and inertia into the realms of sane!#!! We are bizarre!

But I am happy and joyfully relieved to tell you, that this is not how you have to live. This is not how it has to be.
You were born from life’s wondrous affair and in being so you energetic gifts are powerful and enable the most fulfilling and genuinely light-hearted life. Firstly with yourself and then as a natural extension to others.

Are you ready for an inner revolution! You can reclaim your great inherent sexual.
Become your own shaman healer.
Do not be afraid to stand up and feel the vital joy of your sexual body.
Don’t be afraid to feel feelings that you may not have felt for a long long time, maybe never!
Come to Eyes Open Sacred Feminine Retreat and enter into an Environment and situation where in every way you will be told and made to feel that you were NEVER a problem and enable yourself to start on a road that can only give you back your dignity, honour and great sexual joy!

The Conundrum of  Sexual Freedom (Part One)

The Conundrum of Sexual Freedom (Part One)


Sex and Freedom are two words not usually in natural equilibrium with each other. We often fight for or withdraw from the freedom of our sexuality. We never just pursue it as a balanced and harmonious course of our life, without the often accompanying thoughts of guilt, anxiousness, doubt and threat either before or after any physical acts.

We claim we would love sexual freedom or allow another’s, but often the statement is hollow instigating instead a deep fear or intense confusion.

Why do we do this? Why are we so easily manipulated into fear when it comes to sex and sexuality?

I encourage you to look directly at the reasons that instigate such intense feelings of unworthiness and defense. I encourage you to reclaim the right to Your full sexuality!

Rather than creating and encouraging happiness and pleasure through sexual balance and harmony they have helped induce intense paranoia and a deep mistrust of ourselves and our bodies.
Today’s attitude to sex and the band aid way that we try to use to deal with it for the sake of ourselves and our children is a result of deep sexual repression and suppression.
We may talk about things sometimes but when push comes to shove, we do not know how to look softly and life adoringly into our children’s eyes or our lovers, let alone a complete stranger!
And this has nothing to do with any sex act but is fully sexual and pleasurable in its nature.

Young children are full of the mischievous delight of sexual wonder, they play with theirs and friends genitals very happily…they are sometimes obsessive (who wouldn’t be when something is new and feels THAT good!) but just as easily leave them alone when distracted by something else. They use the pleasure and feeling of their genitals for comfort and also leave them alone when distracted. A penis or vagina can hold just as much fascination as a spider or a grasshopper! Such is the natural play of early childhood. Such is the easy natural wonder and curiosity of being a young human.
So what has happened to the adults then? Why are so many, too many, woman unhappy and confused about the lack of or diminished feeling of sexual vitality? Where has the natural wonder and curiosity of sex gone?
We are told how to behave, how to act, how to think, how to do our sexual deeds (or misdeeds as they often become). We are told to be nice, decent, acceptable and compatible. We are boringly repetitive in our answers, our questions, our expectations and our instigations into life. We don’t do anything to shake ourselves up, mess ourselves around, stand up for ourselves, become soft and vulnerable, become healthily curious and humourous. We have become hard, protective, neurosed, control freaks, depressed and ironic.
And we are confused. We are all having either a quiet and wickedly suppressed tantrum or an externally adolescent and boisterous (no one is EVER going to tell me what to do!) one. Not only that, we are covered (from head to genitals to toes) in metaphoric band aids from the social self help services that don’t address the cause, just the outcome.

Our deeply suppressed but gorgeously sublime enjoyable life energy is screaming out for attention to wake up. This positive, sublime, way of living and feeling is not fake, it is not a myth, it is just that we have been told that this way of feeling in our body, is not possible, unless we do something to make it that way.
The doing something to make it that way, is a statement that always suggests we have or are a problem and we need to fix it. It seems natural because we have been given this mantra/statement since we were born. We were given the nipple to stop crying, the cuddle to stop screaming, the lolly to stop whining, the look to stop hassling. We had to do something and receive something to make something happen, to make ourselves feel accepted. This was fine as a baby and small emotionally dependent child but, somewhere along the way when the emotionally mature adult did not come along to grow you out of this, the same expectation extended itself out into every area of your life and now you are full with the expectations of doing stuff to get what you want, to make yourself feel good. You think this is what it is to be adult but you need to be told with kindness and warmth and sincerity that you never grew out of the emotional dependant child stage and that no one could grow you out of this because they were still living from the emotional dependent stage, as well. No one can be blamed for this stunted way of thinking and feeling. It has been a vicious religo, societal, cultural cycle and has been responsible for the underlying suppression and fearful behaviour of all humanity.
Your intuitive ability to rely on and feel joy without internal or external stimuli has now gone. The suppression is complete, the training done. From a social systems point of view we have become good, well stifled appropriately behaving, semi sexual, robots (just enough to procreate). The robots can still conform to any culture, but it is still a robot, living within the confines of what that culture is subtly and not so subtly telling them to do.

To be continued….