Your Accidentally Divine Sexualness

You are a catyclysmic pulse of sensuous light that moves chemicals and particles accidently, divinely, into an unapologetic wonderful display of organic energy. This creation that is you is from the wonderfully freely divine (meaning beyond world physics but including it) intelligence of Life make-up. A sexual and primal, primitive life intelligence bound and made you. Why then, do we still not afford this of ourselves? What have you done along the way to stop feeling the great wonder, delight and wild mystery that is essentially you? Why do you not tacidly feel your real life intelligence anymore.

It is not the sex act and how to do it or how to approach it that we need to address. We do not have to learn how to masturbate again, how to touch another, how to show our vaginas to others- how to look someone in the eye softly, we are all perfectly pleasurably capable of doing that naturally – No, it is the ugly self imposed feeling of guilt and shame that we place on ourselves because we have forgotten our natural; trading it for a set of rules and regulations we had to follow to belong, to not be punished.  We can be the most gorgeous, the most sumptuous, the most erotic person in the world, but there is always a feeling of uncomfortableness, uneasiness, self consciousness. And therefore these are the feelings that stop us from doing what is naturally and easefully right for us to do.

So what do we learn if we come to a sexuality life teacher?

We do not go to learn anything!

We goundo all the things that we thought we had to learn to be a responsible law abiding social culturally appropriate citizen. We give our attention to someone who has understood and lives this themselves, these are the credentials the teacher must have. We come to understand in their company what we are up to and have been up to so that we may dismantle the false identity that we have created over time. We come into their company to feel the wonder again, to feel the freedom of not being judged, of no predjudice. We come into their company to see and feel their unproblematic disply of the inherent full and sexual self so that we can trust and feel our own again.

You cannot learn what is naturally of you.

You come to honour what is in them because you understand what you have lost in yourself and you wish to honour that again, to create a relationship based on that; full again, unjustifiable again, emotionally strong again.

You come to that teacher to remember who you are!

How about we start at the beginning?

Avadhoot Gate Close Up 500 pxHave you ever freely expressed what you think about about sex and or sexuality?

Have you ever had open discussions about your thoughts and ideas and how you prefer your sex or sexuality to be?

Have you ever been confronted with the idea that you do not need to do anything at all to feel satisfied and alive and open and full of joy?

Most of us haven’t.

Most of us have been told how to be, how to behave, what to say, how to say it, what to do or not do and how and what to feel.

There is an argument that if we do not have rules and regulations we will become chaotic and disorganised, we will not know what to do to survive and live peacefully, we will become like animals, we will become uncivilised.

I would argue that we already do not know how to live peacefully, that we are already chaotic and disorganised in terms of how we treat each other and this beautiful world and that we are barely surviving as a species. Animals have a natural intergration with their life and their conditions which means they live within their means, never taking more or less than is necessary and never live beyond their natural and innate instincts.

The first argument is a false presumption based on the demise of people living in fear and needing rules. It is outdated and obviously used to protect an archaic system that does not work.

In this society, fear instigates almost all action to seek, it instigates our presumptions around sexuality and creates predjudice and timidity.

We do not live in a fear-less community of people that enables each individual to independently explore what is right for them to do or how to be.

Sexuality has never been approached in a way that allows for individuals to feel what it means for them to be sexually full and satisfied. Most people would not know where to start.

How about we start right at the beginning, the beginning being the place where you were before anything was asked of you or expected of you, before ideas and values were given to you. You came with all you needed to be a great and full sexual human being. You were full of unique potential to express and feel the delight of your own making. You still are, but you have stopped believing this to conform to what you think is normal, to stop the uncomfortable feeling that something is not quite right and does not quite “fit” you.

You gave up your right to celebrate and stay in awe and wonder of your new body and this mysterious world. You gave up your right to become self responsible, to explore what was necessary for you to explore to stay balanced and whole, vital and complete.  And as a result your sexuality and vitality have waned and become confusing.

I am here to help you come into contact with your beginning again. I am here to help empower you to claim what should never have been driven or depressed out of you. Your Life, Your Sex, Your Charisma, Your full Joy, Your ability to be Self Responsible at the level of the Unity with Life…

Eyes Open Retreats allows you to explore all of this, to help you understand that you have never been a problem that there is no sin and that you are not a sinner and therefore have nothing to feel ashamed of or anything to fix.

A Good Education

A Good Education

article-2451782-18A7018700000578-235_640x497A good education is where one arrives at 20 years of age and knows how to take responsibility of their own feelings. A sound human knowledge education is one where the individual has deeply understood her or his innate natural gifts that nature has inscribed in him or her. In other words we not only know some facts about the world and career oportunities but, much more, we understand the nature of our sexuality in terms of being a human being.

Rather than trying to un-naturally conform our nature to man made ideas and rules that are founded on gender prejudice, fear and its need for power and control, it is more intelligent and wise to align ourselves to the laws of Nature.

After all, the body is birthed out of the laws of nature, not the laws of man. The bodies sexuality is a natural expression within the laws of nature.

We must first of all locate ourselves, our emotional sexual bodily self not by comparing to another or how good we are for another but, rather, by understanding ones self as a unique bodily being in nature.

Every woman and every man must first of all understand their own emotional sexual self and be completely comfortable in their own emotional sexual body before looking for emotional sexual approval from another.

However, this is not the case with most of us. We begin to feel like we are a problem because we cannot attract someone sexually. Our lack of a true human education shows up nowhere more obviously in our pursuit to find emotional sexual approval and worth from another person. Who, by the way, is doing exactly the same thing.

Sexual intimacy must begin, for all of us, women and men, with the enquiry, how do I become a pleasure to myself?

Am I already an emotional sexual pleasurable human being?

Do I know, without guilt and shame, how to be a pleasure to myself? Do I understand and adhere to the natural laws of my own body before I start trying to obey the rules and conditions of another persons bodily life?

Are you aware of how much your emotional sexual self is “owned” by another. How much of your self have you given away to another in the hope of getting back what you want?

Religion and societal laws have always been about controlling sexuality as a means of controlling the congregation or workforce.

The usual relationships between woman and man are frought with control and ownership of the others emotional sexual life. On the basis of the usual “trade me for you” relationship we begin to doubt our own emotional sexual intelligence and intuition. Trying to conform your inherently natural self to someone elses ideas and demands in order to meet their satisfction almost always eventually leads to the de-vitalisation of your own bodily self.

It is not a new sexual techique or a new lover or more knowledge one needs in order to improve or enhance ones own pleasurable sexual self or relationship. It is, with great help and guidance, intelligently and wisely understanding ones own level of self-worth before any sexual relationship has begun.

Your Accidentally Divine Sexual-ness!

Inbetween-Fear-N-Excitement-2008You are a catyclysmic pulse of sensuous light that moves chemicals and particles accidently, divinely, into an unapologetic wonderful display of organic energy.

This creation that is you is from the wonderfully freely divine (meaning beyond world physics but including it) intelligence of Life make-up. A sexual and primal, primitive life intelligence bound and made you. Why then, do we still not afford this of ourselves? What have you done along the way to stop feeling the great wonder, delight and wild mystery that is essentially you? Why do you not tacidly feel your real life intelligence anymore.

It is not the sex act and how to do it or how to approach it that we need to address. We do not have to learn how to masturbate again, how to touch another, how to show our vaginas to others- how to look someone in the eye softly, we are all perfectly pleasurably capable of doing that naturally – No, it is the ugly self imposed feeling of guilt and shame that we place on ourselves because we have forgotten our natural; trading it for a set of rules and regulations we had to follow to belong, to not be punished.  We can be the most gorgeous, the most sumptuous, the most erotic person in the world, but there is always a feeling of uncomfortableness, uneasiness, self consciousness. And therefore these are the feelings that stop us from doing what is naturally and easefully right for us to do.

So what do we learn if we come to a sexuality life teacher?

We do not go to learn anything!

We come to undo all the things that we thought we had to learn to be a responsible law abiding social culturally appropriate citizen. We give our attention to the teacher who has understood and lives this themselves, these are the credentials the teacher must have. We come to understand, in their company, what we are up to and have been up to, so we are able to be distracted from the false identity that we have created over time. We come into their company to feel the wonder again, to feel the freedom of not being judged, of no predjudice. We come into their company to see and feel their unproblematic disply of the inherent full and sexual self so that we can trust and feel our own again.

You cannot learn what is naturally of you.

You come to honour what the teacher lives, because you understand what you have lost in yourself and you wish to honour that again, to create a relationship based on that; full again, unjustifiable again, emotionally strong again.

You come to that teacher to remember who you are!

What are your natural feelings around sexuality?

What are your natural feelings around sexuality?

images-4What are your natural feelings around sexuality?

What are your naturally full and juicy thoughts around sex? What do you really prefer and are you willing to stand up for what is naturally right for you. Do you have the emotional strength to stand out on your own and live what is right for you? Do you also have others around you that support and know and also live this?

What would be hugely helpful for any young humans basic emotional needs, no matter what race, culture or gender, is to know that what they feel is not abnormal, unnatural or unaccepted. To know that they are still appreciated no matter how unusual or opposite they are to anyone elses feelings or thoughts. Even more helpful would be, to never hold that one to that particular expression of feeling, to allow that one the opportunity to change their mind and opinion about what and how they feel. To know, that they should never be bound to thinking that they are only capable of certain types of feelings and that these feelings and ensuing thoughts should be linear and constant and reasonable for the sake of others understanding and knowing that one.

We often don’t ask ourselves why something feels weird or unusual. But we don’t have to look to far to see social acceptance is limited, what we are expected to feel and conform to are very minimal in the scheme of our free flowing unlimited life feelings.

We are born with the capacity to feel many things that often completely contradict each other. It makes us feel odd, weird and funny so we more often than not shut these feelings off or down. We think we will become out of control or over the top. My realisation of this is, that we actually become balanced and whole, complete and unafraid of our selves. It is when we are cut off from this free feeling capability and appreciation of this in ourselves, that we become unstable, neurotic and mad.

We are not born with behavioural boundaries. We are taught these and therefore what to respond to and what to reject. But, how, as children did we know that these were right for us. Apparently because the adults, said so. And all to often the adults said so because society said so and society is bound by psychopathic consumer corporations that manipulate out dated, dull religious law, that we in our inertia, often choose not to inspect relative our own intuitive knowing.

We all want to belong, we do not want to be unacceptable to those we want love and approval from. We do not want to stand out, alone and uncomfortable. So, we will take on the behaviour required, and we will tell ourselves that this is right and acceptable. We become conformists and the potential for obsessive, compulsive, neurosis then, becomes very strong.

Free Life Full Feeling, is natural but it is unusual and rare to come across in humans. It is beautiful and raw and primal and balanced and empowered. It will never bind a person to un natural laws. Its path is the path of freedom in Life. Therefore it is boundless and full of unlimited possibilities. One must become emotionally strong to be truly sexually free. You have these possibilities because you are raw primal sexual Life before any act or wish to sex.

 

You Are Love First

You Are Love First

you-are-love-omYou are Love first – You are this great energetic force of Life – You are Life. You are therefore not a problem – we have created problems because we have forgotten what we are – we have forgotten not how to Love, but that we ARE Love. Breathe easy in yourself and know that ultimately all is well.

Breathe down your frontal line opening up your frontal area as you go feeling the genital area, not being ashamed of this, then back up the back and out your mouth.
This is the course of the natural life energy current that moves through the body.
Put five minutes aside a day to just feel that you are more than all the things and conditions that tell you that you are not.
Gaze easy and naturally at yourself and others and Remember this Unproblematic energy that you are.


Vitality and Joy are natural, they should never be something that you have to conjure up. What are you doing to yourself, what are you believing about yourself, that makes you think that you do not have these. Shame, guilt and fear are made up because we have created a problem – they are not natural feelings given from a natural way of being. Nothing you do is shameful. To be bright and intelligent is not an academic thing it is an open Hearted attitude that creates Divine Intelligence – the more you sit within your feeling of no problem – the more natural divine intelligence you will have- the body knows inherently what to do – it is always naturally striving for balance – it already knows it is love. Do not rely on anyone for Love – You are selling yourself out and you are insulting yourself. Empowered Woman are needed in this world – Natural energetically beautiful, empowered woman are what this world needs. You are a wonder.

The Conundrum of Sexual Freedom (Part 2)

The Conundrum of Sexual Freedom (Part 2)

Painter Arunas Zilys - Melody DreamingStress and sexual negativity brought on through imbalanced and abusive conditions on all energetic levels (mental, emotional, physical etc) leaves many people with psychological scars that we do not know how to deal with. We are ashamed, we feel unworthy and most of all we feel unloved, unaccepted. To take the road of No Problem is a radical and revolutionary step. We are all trying to fix the problems to heal ourselves. If you wish to stand up and claim what is inherent of you, your primal well being sexuality, a person can no longer blame anything external. You must take responsibility for all that is going on emotionally/sexually physically for you. That is the start of becoming sexually alive! That is the start of your real full sexual humanness.

Joy and Vital living are uncommon energies that are felt in humans as a constant and strong force. Yet, these are natural body energies that should be available to everyone 100 percent of the time.
We are not given a choice to live these if we are told from day one in all manner of ways, that we can’t claim these unless we feel loved, accepted, appreciated and fulfilled, always by something external or internal (good thoughts, affirmations etc). We were easily conned and had no choice but to intuit, absorb and listen to negativity in the form of “do this, this and this, or, behave like this, this and this” and then, you will be a good boy or girl.” Caregivers and teachers would not have called this negative, they felt they were making you into a good human being. But here I use negativity as a word that means going against the natural already perfect appreciation and acceptance of the human life you are…everything included, all feelings, thoughts and actions.

If we are going against what is natural and life given, we can only be trying to manipulate ourselves or others into becoming something that we are not. We have become (if we quiet ourselves) a consistent nagging bag of thoughts and feelings. Always trying to prove our worth to counteract feelings of no worth, and, the bugger of this is, there are only a limited number of ways we can prove this. Society, culture and religion only allow for so many types of behaviour patterns. Anything outside of this is sinful, weird, odd, eccentric, dirty or not to be taken seriously.
To make yourself right, there are parts of you that you have to make wrong. You have to leave out, not acknowledge and suppress the mischievous, naughty (by societies standards) and eccentric, the outspoken and the raw. In my opinion the very things and feelings that bring charisma, pleasure, joy, humour and wonder.  Most of us have to fake the mundane and acceptable to be considered sane and suppress the mischievous joy because apparently we will become insane. But insane because we had normalized mundane and inertia into the realms of sane!#!! We are bizarre!

But I am happy and joyfully relieved to tell you, that this is not how you have to live. This is not how it has to be.
You were born from life’s wondrous affair and in being so you energetic gifts are powerful and enable the most fulfilling and genuinely light-hearted life. Firstly with yourself and then as a natural extension to others.

Are you ready for an inner revolution! You can reclaim your great inherent sexual.
Become your own shaman healer.
Do not be afraid to stand up and feel the vital joy of your sexual body.
Don’t be afraid to feel feelings that you may not have felt for a long long time, maybe never!
Come to Eyes Open Sacred Feminine Retreat and enter into an Environment and situation where in every way you will be told and made to feel that you were NEVER a problem and enable yourself to start on a road that can only give you back your dignity, honour and great sexual joy!

The Conundrum of  Sexual Freedom (Part One)

The Conundrum of Sexual Freedom (Part One)

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Sex and Freedom are two words not usually in natural equilibrium with each other. We often fight for or withdraw from the freedom of our sexuality. We never just pursue it as a balanced and harmonious course of our life, without the often accompanying thoughts of guilt, anxiousness, doubt and threat either before or after any physical acts.

We claim we would love sexual freedom or allow another’s, but often the statement is hollow instigating instead a deep fear or intense confusion.

Why do we do this? Why are we so easily manipulated into fear when it comes to sex and sexuality?

I encourage you to look directly at the reasons that instigate such intense feelings of unworthiness and defense. I encourage you to reclaim the right to Your full sexuality!

Rather than creating and encouraging happiness and pleasure through sexual balance and harmony they have helped induce intense paranoia and a deep mistrust of ourselves and our bodies.
Today’s attitude to sex and the band aid way that we try to use to deal with it for the sake of ourselves and our children is a result of deep sexual repression and suppression.
We may talk about things sometimes but when push comes to shove, we do not know how to look softly and life adoringly into our children’s eyes or our lovers, let alone a complete stranger!
And this has nothing to do with any sex act but is fully sexual and pleasurable in its nature.

Young children are full of the mischievous delight of sexual wonder, they play with theirs and friends genitals very happily…they are sometimes obsessive (who wouldn’t be when something is new and feels THAT good!) but just as easily leave them alone when distracted by something else. They use the pleasure and feeling of their genitals for comfort and also leave them alone when distracted. A penis or vagina can hold just as much fascination as a spider or a grasshopper! Such is the natural play of early childhood. Such is the easy natural wonder and curiosity of being a young human.
So what has happened to the adults then? Why are so many, too many, woman unhappy and confused about the lack of or diminished feeling of sexual vitality? Where has the natural wonder and curiosity of sex gone?
We are told how to behave, how to act, how to think, how to do our sexual deeds (or misdeeds as they often become). We are told to be nice, decent, acceptable and compatible. We are boringly repetitive in our answers, our questions, our expectations and our instigations into life. We don’t do anything to shake ourselves up, mess ourselves around, stand up for ourselves, become soft and vulnerable, become healthily curious and humourous. We have become hard, protective, neurosed, control freaks, depressed and ironic.
And we are confused. We are all having either a quiet and wickedly suppressed tantrum or an externally adolescent and boisterous (no one is EVER going to tell me what to do!) one. Not only that, we are covered (from head to genitals to toes) in metaphoric band aids from the social self help services that don’t address the cause, just the outcome.

Our deeply suppressed but gorgeously sublime enjoyable life energy is screaming out for attention to wake up. This positive, sublime, way of living and feeling is not fake, it is not a myth, it is just that we have been told that this way of feeling in our body, is not possible, unless we do something to make it that way.
The doing something to make it that way, is a statement that always suggests we have or are a problem and we need to fix it. It seems natural because we have been given this mantra/statement since we were born. We were given the nipple to stop crying, the cuddle to stop screaming, the lolly to stop whining, the look to stop hassling. We had to do something and receive something to make something happen, to make ourselves feel accepted. This was fine as a baby and small emotionally dependent child but, somewhere along the way when the emotionally mature adult did not come along to grow you out of this, the same expectation extended itself out into every area of your life and now you are full with the expectations of doing stuff to get what you want, to make yourself feel good. You think this is what it is to be adult but you need to be told with kindness and warmth and sincerity that you never grew out of the emotional dependant child stage and that no one could grow you out of this because they were still living from the emotional dependent stage, as well. No one can be blamed for this stunted way of thinking and feeling. It has been a vicious religo, societal, cultural cycle and has been responsible for the underlying suppression and fearful behaviour of all humanity.
Your intuitive ability to rely on and feel joy without internal or external stimuli has now gone. The suppression is complete, the training done. From a social systems point of view we have become good, well stifled appropriately behaving, semi sexual, robots (just enough to procreate). The robots can still conform to any culture, but it is still a robot, living within the confines of what that culture is subtly and not so subtly telling them to do.

To be continued….

You are the essence of what we, with so many misconceptions, have called God…

You are the essence of what we, with so many misconceptions, have called God…

View from InsideYou are the essence of what we, with so many misconceptions, have called God. God and sex are one and the same. Because we are not living our true nature, because we have been conforming to man-made/religious laws, our nervous systems have become blocked unused and undermined by untrue thoughts, and the feelings/emotions that are formed as a result of this aggravated thinking.

When we relax off this thinking, our habits and our addictive patterns of coping, our central nervous system begins to be able to function more efficiently, it becomes open to currents and forces that were shut down because of limited thinking and fear.  We are then able to access new states of awareness, which the body can move into: more expansive thinking, mystical spatial feeling phenomena, intuitive phenomena that reorientate us to our true nature. Energetic interpretations become a relevant currency in communication, and a feeling interpretation of life becomes available, therefore a more ‘realistic’ way of taking action in the world is evident.

Sexuality becomes sacred, not to bind yourself to the physical but because you understand that this force motivates all your bodily functions, actions and communication in the world. It is the instigator and creator of vitality, joy and pleasure therefore must be honoured and looked after.  Given acknowledgement and celebrated.  Not suppressed and judged, nor saved only for the act of sex, nor taken as motivation just towards sex in and of itself. This is a degradation of our sexuality and sensuality.

Sexuality gives you drive and attractiveness that has nothing to do with physical beauty and youth, but is energetic beauty.  Beauty that emanates as a result of vital, unselfconscious sexual energy. In fact this type of beauty is something that should grow as one gets older and as dependence on worldly affairs becomes less important.  This does not tend to happen because of our obsession with sex as being just a bodily act to get something from. As we get older, we feel we lose this and cannot compete or do not even want to compete with youth and its fresh beauty.  We lose touch with our sexual force, rendering it obsolete.  Blessed is the one who understands this non-attachment to conditional life at an early age and who finds beauty, or beauty finds them, in the infinite well of incomparable sexual life energy.

There is nothing given in the world that allows you to become one with your sexual force or life force. Nothing.  This is because there is only sexual force or life force. You cannot get back to something when you are already there.

Therefore ask yourself: what do you do to stop yourself from feeling and realising that you are already sexually full and complete?  What thoughts and ideas about yourself or the world or others do you reject because you have a judgment or prejudice that “this is not right or relevant”.  What are these judgments based on? Who instigated them, was it your inherent and full sexual self?

How is sexuality instigated or prompted then, how is it represented in your life?  What codes are we making up or conforming to, which make us think that something else is not it?  If there is only life force and sexual energy, when does something become not this?

Through suppression we have become extremely right or extremely wrong.  As a result our bodies have had to fight to reharmonise themselves.  We have ended up expressing ourselves in extremely extrovert or introvert ways, becoming odd and weird and inappropriate, not fully Human, slightly insane.  These expressions have not been out of a natural balance but out of the wish for the body to try and get itself back to some natural harmony again.

However when we have believed our ideas, and they have become habitual, the body keeps losing its hold on inherent harmony because our rigid mind and its thoughts and the accompanying feelings keep taking over and winning, therefore suppressing the body’s inherent drive to rebalance itself again.

This is a constant battle within ourselves, which we liken to a battle of good and evil, right and wrong (very biblical and Christian in nature) but it is merely the body fighting against the suppression created by our limited ideas, thoughts and habitual patterns of behaving according to these.